Surviving to Thriving

I ask myself this almost every day because I’m finding I change every day. I am becoming closer to who I REALLY am, rather than who I think the world wants me to be. I am happy with who I am. Each day I love to discover a new aspect of myself. The more this happens, the happier I become with myself and the world around me.

I wasn’t always happy. In fact, at times I was a darn miserable sod to be around. I thought I had been dealt a bad hand in life. That was my lot. I was a victim of circumstance, a victim of my environment. I had no control over my life, just had to ‘suck it up’ and get on with it. I was born into a challenging life, with plenty of hardship, neglect and abuse from the moment I took my first breath.

However, something happened a few years ago that just flipped my whole life and world on its head. It was what I now call my ‘do or die’ situation. I felt I just didn’t have it in me to struggle anymore. I had lost all hope for any semblance of happiness or comfort in my future.

I didn’t know it at the time, but that situation was the best thing that could have happened to me. Really, any of those difficult circumstances could have been. What I later realised was that with the negative thinking patterns I was conditioned with, when any challenge appeared in my life, that kind of thinking was my first point of reference.

It influenced every area of life: my health, finances, career, relationships, everything we feel we need to achieve happiness and comfort in life.

I blamed everyone and everything for my challenges: my family, my employers, other people in my life, the government, the education system, the doctors, the list goes on. I wasn’t responsible for my challenges, they all were.

Today, OMG turn it all on its head and the story is completely different. I am in control. I take responsibility for everything that happens to me. I have learned so much about myself and how life actually works. I CHOOSE which thoughts serve me best. I actively notice the consequences of choosing positive or negative thoughts. Believe me once you try it you’ll look for the positive every time.

I still have challenges, always will, without the challenges you don’t learn what you want more in life. The difference now is that I welcome the challenges because I can turn them into opportunities to create something amazing. Oh have I created some awesome opportunities. When I look back, I do see that I could always do this, but previously I just thought they were occasional ‘lucky breaks’. The problem was the luck was not sustainable. I didn’t know that I had created them so because I believed they were just lucky I also believed my luck would run out. In actual fact, this expectation was precisely what caused the good luck to end. I was unconsciously sabotaging myself and pushing good stuff away from me.

I was ‘living by default’. Not knowing I was creating my life myself, I was allowing my unconscious thoughts to control my life.

Today I live DELIBERATELY! This is the key! I know what creates what in my life. I know how to deal with challenges if and when they arise. The reward is that challenges are rare now. When they do come up, I now listen to my own thoughts rather than the previously conditioned thoughts of others. I arrive so much quicker and easier at the solution that is right for ME.

I now have a much more calm and peaceful life. Life just flows easily. I’m not resistant to it anymore. Life is also a lot more fun because I enjoy expecting good things to happen and am thrilled to just watch them appear.

So my aim in writing this blog is to introduce others to tips, tools, strategies and processes that have really helped me and continue to do so. I will recommend films, books, videos and many more resources on the net. I will talk about the many teachers that have come into my life and I love to continue to learn from.

“When the student is ready, the teacher appears” – Buddhist proverb

You may or may not agree with all I do or write about. That is great. Find what feels good to you. Discard what doesn’t. Find your own true self. Learn to listen to your own inner voice.

Personally, I am writing this because I have long had a dream of being a writer, but have never actually written anything before. I have felt a fear of writing. I don’t know why that is, but I am now feeling inspired and willing to step out of my comfort zone and do things that feel scary at first. That’s the only way to overcome fear. If just one person feels any comfort or benefit from what I write, that is a big bonus for me.

I look forward to getting to know any readers, and love to hear your stories of success.


Lola Love says:

Really good sharing Diane! So much allowing & in the flow! ~Peace, Lola ❤

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